Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire!
As children , we probably all remember the “Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire!” phrase. We even probably said it from time to time. We usually said it to shame those people we caught lying, into telling the truth or at the very least, hopefully shame them into realizing that lying is not cool.
Seems that lying is the norm these days. Everyone apparently is doing it. Politicians do it all the time and they wonder why it’s such a big deal. They say stuff like “It was for the good of the country” to justify their lying words…
More and more people seem to be doing it and more and more people seem to think doing it, is OK. Everything from the little white lies all the way down to the bold faced I know I am doing it but I can’t help myself kinda lie.
I really despise liars. I mean I really, really, really despise them.
Especially when you catch them in a lie. It’s like catching a kid with his hand in the candy jar… they know they are not supposed to be in there, yet they just can’t seem to be able to help themselves. Yet when they get caught, they suddenly dismiss you as if you are the one who is doing the lie. Basically they can’t handle it and feel the easiest way out is to make you feel like you’re the guilty one.
I have noticed that even the little white lies seem to be happening with greater abundance these days. You know the ones I mean, the ones that the person believes “isn’t hurting anyone” or is “saving them” from something else. Usually incorrectly perceived pain, either physical or emotional, but still pain none-the-less. But it is the liar who perceives this, not the one being lied to. Interesting. I think they are saving themselves the pain of having to explain their lying ways, hmmmm.
Why can some people spend every waking moment telling lies? And why do they think it is OK to do just that? Who are they kidding?
It’s been my experience that liars learn their devious ways as a result of their past experiences. Negative reactions to what they believe are positive explanations. They may be telling the truth, yet they still receive a negative “not a banner making” reaction that is expected from telling the truth; which tells them “next time I will lie just to avoid that” because look what telling the truth got me!?!?
When I was a kid Ok that was a looong time ago, but I still remember I would watch how other people would lie about certain things in hopes that their quick excuses, uhem lie, would “get them off the crime” they had just been caught committing. Inevitably though, even if their lie worked in that particular moment, I noticed that when the truth was finally revealed, the consequences were much greater than if they had told the truth in the first place. They were grounded longer, lost certain privileges longer and basically learned that lying is not the way to go.
Some of these people grow up to be the liar of all liars. The type that sees nothing wrong with lying. They have learned that even when they do tell the truth, trouble still happens and they can’t handle that. So they continue to lie. They then figure that it is better to omit pertinent details when explaining themselves because they figure if you don’t talk about it, then it is not really a lie. Um… hello!! Lying by omission is still a lie I mean seriously now… when the WHOLE truth is finally revealed it’s still a lie!!
So my question to you is this:
“When is it OK to lie?” And “who is it OK to lie to?” Anyone? No one? Children so they do not get physically hurt? Who? When?
Just pondering the thought….